Is this the most damaging mindset flaw we have?

Lately I’ve been reading the book Conversations With God.

As a Christian AND church employee, this is kind of an interesting choice for reading material.

(And one I wouldn’t want too many people to know I’m reading!)

But the premise is clearly fascinating.

The author, in a fit of frustration starts taking out his anger on God…

And God responds.

The book is basically a transcript of his conversation (hence the title…)

From a theological perspective, I’m not sure what to make of it.

But from a mindset perspective, the lessons are pretty much invaluable.

A lot of the stuff I’m seeing in here is stuff that’s popped up in other places that I’ve read or listened to lately, but one idea really caught my attention.

It’s something I wish I could tell certain people in my life.

It’s something that I need to remind myself constantly.

And most important, it’s something that, if you get it wrong, will cause you a great deal of pain and disappointment.

On page 102 “God” says, “Man, on the other hand, often feels he needs a return on his investment. If we’re going to love somebody, fine – but we’d better get some love back. That sort of thing. This is not passion. This is expectation. This is the greatest source of man’s unhappiness. It is what separates man from God.”

Let’s read that crucial line about expectation again:

“This is the greatest source of man’s unhappiness.”

Regardless of what you think of this book, that is true beyond a shadow of a doubt.

I also would be willing to bet that we’ve all done it.

With our spouse, or family member, or someone in our life.

We’ve done something with an unspoken expectation of receiving something in return.

They have no way of knowing this.

But then we’ve gotten angry when our expectation was unmet.

Maybe it was an action (sex?), maybe it was a reaction.

Whatever it was, it probably ruined your day for at least a bit.

As hard as it is, try to rid yourself of expectations of others.

You have no ability to control other people.

Control yourself, control your reactions to others.

Keep this in mind as yoiu go through the next few days and see what happens.

And go buy these books. 

They’re worth the read.

Talk soon,


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